3. Approaching and Building Rapport

Engaging with young people, especially in a detached youth work setting, requires a thoughtful and intentional approach. Building rapport is key to creating trust, fostering open communication, and establishing a positive connection.

Initial Approach:

1. Be Present and Observant: Spend time in the spaces where young people gather, observing their interactions and interests. This helps you understand their dynamics and identify potential opportunities for engagement.
2. Casual and Non-Intrusive: Approach young people in a relaxed, non-threatening manner. Avoid appearing judgemental or authoritative. A simple hello, a smile, or a comment about something happening around you can initiate conversation.
3. Active Listening: Show genuine interest in what young people have to say. Listen attentively, ask open-ended questions, and validate their feelings. Avoid interrupting or offering advice too quickly.
4. Common Ground: Find shared interests or experiences to connect with young people. This could be music, sports, hobbies, or current events.
5. Authenticity: Be yourself. Young people can sense insincerity. Be genuine in your interactions and show that you care about them as individuals.

Building Rapport:

1. Consistency: Show up regularly in the same places and times. Consistency builds familiarity and trust.
2. Respect Boundaries: Don’t push young people to share more than they’re comfortable with. Respect their privacy and personal space.
3. Non-Judgmental Attitude: Avoid making assumptions or judging their choices. Create a safe space where they feel accepted and understood.
4. Empowerment: Encourage young people to share their ideas, opinions, and concerns. Help them find their voice and build their confidence.
5. Advocacy: Be an advocate for young people, helping them navigate challenges and access resources they need.

Additional Tips:

• Use Humour: Light-heartedness can break the ice and create a more relaxed atmosphere.
• Be Patient: Building trust takes time. Don’t get discouraged if you don’t see immediate results.
• Flexibility: Be adaptable and willing to adjust your approach based on the needs and preferences of the young people you’re working with.
• Collaboration: Partner with other organisations and individuals who work with young people to provide comprehensive support.
• Be Observant: Before approaching, spend time observing the group dynamics and individual personalities. Are they engaged in an activity? What are their interests? This will help you tailor your approach and find common ground.
• Start with a Casual Conversation: Don’t jump into heavy topics or personal questions right away. Begin with a casual greeting or comment about something happening around you. “Hey, that’s a cool skateboard trick!” or “Enjoying the sunshine?” can open doors for further conversation.
• Show Genuine Interest: Ask open-ended questions about their interests, hobbies, or opinions. Listen attentively and respond thoughtfully. This shows you value their perspectives and want to learn more about them.
• Find Common Ground: Look for shared interests or experiences to connect with. Maybe you both love the same music, play the same sport, or have similar hobbies. This can create a sense of rapport and make them feel more comfortable around you.
• Be Patient and Respectful: Building trust takes time. Don’t push too hard or be too intrusive. Respect their boundaries and allow them to set the pace of the interaction. If they seem disinterested, don’t take it personally. Just be friendly and open to future interactions.
• Offer an Activity: If appropriate, suggest a fun activity or game that you can all participate in. This can break the ice and create a more relaxed atmosphere for further conversation.
• Body Language: Maintain open, non-threatening body language. Avoid crossing arms or looking stern.

Remember, the goal of first contact is to establish a positive connection and build a foundation for future interactions. By approaching with genuine interest, respect, and a willingness to listen, you can create a safe and welcoming space for young people to open up and engage with you.