In the case of the character from J. M. Barrie’s play ‘Peter Pan’ (1904), it was created from the nickname fwendy “friend”, given to the author by a young friend.
Here’s the late Barlow’s 25 Principles of Adult Behavior:
- Be patient. No matter what.
- Don’t badmouth: Assign responsibility, not blame. Say nothing of another you wouldn’t say to him.
- Never assume the motives of others are, to them, less noble than yours are to you.
- Expand your sense of the possible.
- Don’t trouble yourself with matters you truly cannot change.
- Expect no more of anyone than you can deliver yourself.
- Tolerate ambiguity.
- Laugh at yourself frequently.
- Concern yourself with what is right rather than who is right.
- Never forget that, no matter how certain, you might be wrong.
- Give up blood sports.
- Remember that your life belongs to others as well. Don’t risk it frivolously.
- Never lie to anyone for any reason. (Lies of omission are sometimes exempt.)
- Learn the needs of those around you and respect them.
- Avoid the pursuit of happiness. Seek to define your mission and pursue that.
- Reduce your use of the first personal pronoun.
- Praise at least as often as you disparage.
- Admit your errors freely and soon.
- Become less suspicious of joy.
- Understand humility.
- Remember that love forgives everything.
- Foster dignity.
- Live memorably.
- Love yourself.
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“Talk is cheap. Show me the code.”
― Linus Torvalds
Also known as wild garlic, this plant carpets the ground in areas of woodland across the UK giving off a distinctive odour of garlic. It has long, pointed leaves which have a garlic scent. The flowers are white in colour. The bulb of the plant can be used to create tonics to relieve rheumatic problems and lower cholesterol.
To be honest I love strolling through woodlands and smelling this beautiful plant. Walk along Cornish roads and in spring you get it’s heady scent. It is wonderful and pure.
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I discovered first of all that for the monastic teachers’ humility is the key virtue that is both the starting point and the enabler of the whole Christian experience. What they meant by humility, however, had little to do with the modern, everyday use of the term. For them, humility was not about grovelling before God or other human beings. It had nothing to do with being passive, being a doormat, or glorifying having a poor self-image. It was certainly not a virtue recommended to women or poor people so that they would accept their place in society.
No, humility for the ancient teachers meant accepting ourselves and others just as we are, limitations, vulnerabilities, and other major imperfections included, as already equally valuable and beloved of God without our having to prove our worth by what we accomplish, what we own, what we do right, or by our status in society and in the church. This meant that humility was about slipping underneath the whole hierarchical social web of judgements by which we limit ourselves and one another in order to love and act fearlessly with power and authority.
The guarantee of this humility for the monastic teachers is that it is grounded in the humility of God, as we meet it in the person of Jesus. Think of it! – the humility of God, who has no need to prove God’s power and might over human beings, who absolutely does not desire to dominate us, or bend us to God’s will. God the Father? Dimly, I was beginning to see that this person might not be the one I had thought.
I wanted humility. I knew by now, however, that humility was not a virtue the ancient teachers thought human beings acquire all at once by gritting their teeth and becoming humble. Like all the qualities of God’s love in which human beings are made to share by virtue of the image of God, humility, they believed, is formed in us as a disposition only over a very long time. A vital part of the process of formation was a daily practice of prayer, including most especially reading and mulling over scripture. Because by now I wanted so badly what they had, the monastic teachers had convinced me that it was worth the risk to try, with their help, to enter into a relationship of daily prayer with this God who was turning out to be so different from the one I had so long thought God was. This is what I did.
I have carried this quote with me for years and have still not discovered who said it. Any ideas please?